How do you find reconciliation with your loved ones when you don't live the life they want?

      What to do if relatives are offended by the fact that you do not live according to their "ideal" idea of life?

Most often such problems arise with parents, but often disapproving looks are "disseminated" by other relatives as well. What to do: confront or put up with it?

Fathers and children

If the problem is that you do not meet the expectations of parents, it will be difficult.

Prepare in advance for the fact that quickly bend the line - it will not work. Any parent is sacredly convinced that they want their child to do better, that they are smarter and know how to do it right. Even if his knowledge and beliefs go against the interests of the child.

So your task is not to fight, not try to prove your point, and try to show that you're happy with this, because of this life, and you just do not want anything else.

And what kind of evidence will be - you decide, because everything should be based on a particular situation.

Husband and wife

If the problems are in the relationship between the spouses, then you should start with a simple truth: let the man know that you appreciate his care for you. At the same time it is important to understand why your partner does not like something.

Believe me, but if a woman is against the man to go fishing, it does not mean that she does not like fishing in general. There are probably circumstances that cause her to take a negative view of this attraction of yours.

For example, the fact that you waste a ton of money on it, spend a lot of time, bring fish she can't stand to clean, or, generally drink on a fishing trip, which she really doesn't like.

Try to negotiate so that it suits both her and you. The same can be paraphrased for any other problem.

Relationship with the parents of your significant other

This is probably one of the most difficult. If your mother-in-law is sure that her son is unlucky in family life, it will be difficult to change her mind. But it is worth a try.

In this case, do not fight alone, try to include the main hero of the occasion. Let him not be silent, and by all means show and prove to his parents that his choice is the best.

Once they are convinced that their child is happy, the conflict will be over.

In lieu of a conclusion

Never try to impose your point of view on someone, don't try to prove that it is the best. The strongest proof is your happiness.

And if you are happy, you shouldn't care about the opinion of others, even if they are very close people.