7 Common Manipulative Phrases You Can't Believe

      Manipulators are true professionals. They are very skillful in directing you in the direction they want. What are the phrases of manipulators to watch out for?

1. "You're a ...!"

Exclamations such as "you're a mother," "you're a girl," "you're a doctor" - this is pure manipulation.

The main purpose of this exclamation is to pressure your conscience, not to emphasize your characteristics.

You are reminded that you are "somebody," therefore you "should" or, conversely, are not entitled to something. For example, you're a mother, you can't get tired of your own child.

2. "Trust me!"

As a rule, this phrase is commonly seen as a step towards each other. It is supposed to bring them closer, to erase some boundaries. So it is in fact.

Except that the words do not always hide a worthy motivation. The manipulator can simply "rub" in trust in this way.

3. "If you, I..."

Direct ultimatums based on the assertion that the person is bound to give some kind of "response" to your actions are most often a bluff.

Especially when it comes to harming your own health. If someone says they will "go out the window" if you break up, that's just manipulation.

As sad as it is, those who are willing to take decisive action - "go out" in silence.

4. "I care about you!"

Manipulators only care about themselves - that's a fact. And the phrase aims to make you relax a little. Really, what kind of defensive posture is that, when the person is looking out for your good?

As soon as you stop accepting the manipulator in the bayonet - half of his task is considered accomplished.

5. "You're so cool!"

Learn to distinguish between flattery and sincere compliments, and remember that even sincere praise is a bit of flattery. And flattery is the main weapon of the "good" manipulator.

The thing is that when we are praised, we blossom, we become grateful to the person, we relax and no longer expect a trick from him, and willingly agree to help him with something.

6. "You're drunk/in love/jealous of me!"

Another manipulator tactic is labeling. They try to "explain" your behavior, thereby imposing that behavior on you.

7. "You've got it all wrong!"

When you are constantly told that you do not understand, incomprehensible talk, and in general - a person you are strange, want it or not, but you wonder if everything is wrong with you and your head.

In psychology, this technique is called gaslighting.