7 misconceptions about "true friendship"

 

   There are many legends about true friendship, thanks to which some people have a completely wrong idea of how to be a true friend.

1. A friend must make time for me

Well, really, what kind of friend is this, if he suddenly has no time! This is the reasoning of people who do not know how to be friends. If you really value your friendship and the person, then you must understand - selfishness has no place in this relationship.

A friend does not have to always be there, at any moment to run to you at first call. If only because he has his own business, work, and probably family. Keep a reasonable balance in the relationship with friends, do not try to swirl around them ivy.

Communication should be in moderation!

2. True friendship will weather any storms

This is true in fact, many people take it too literally, and let friendship take its course. Like, if the friendship is real, it is not destined to go out.

In fact, friendships need to be taken care of too, any relationship is a job of sorts.

3. Friends are those who are around

That's not quite right either. True friendship - is not formed overnight. It can bind like an invisible thread, even through cities and years.

And those who are close - just not always can be called your friends. more often - simply acquaintances, comrades in hobbies, colleagues at work.

4. Old friendships don't rust

Yes, there is much evidence of this among those who have been friends since high school, or since one year of university. But, only on the condition that you really maintain a relationship.

And if you try to resurrect a friendship between people who have not communicated for about 20 years, everything will be in vain: everything will just get rusty.

5. A friend is obligated to remember my memorable dates

Thanks to modern social media, and those who do not hide the date of birth, for even the most memorable dates can slip your mind.

By the way, a good habit would be to write down memorable dates in your phone. Now they are stored online like a notebook and are unlikely to get lost.

6. A friend is obliged to be on my side

This is something from the category: even if the whole world is against him, I will stand by his side and silently serve him ammunition. Beautiful words, romantic, but totally inapplicable to either a love relationship or friendship.

He can only be on your side if he chooses to be, if it does not conflict with his conscience and beliefs.

7. Real friends go visiting uninvited

In general, anyone would not like it much, but if you feel like it - come, "kiss" the castle and go home.

Because nowadays, people don't have time to sit at home, they are constantly running somewhere. and without warning, you just might not catch them.