7 reasons why you shouldn't solve other people's problems

 

   Surely there are people in your community who like to complain and ask for help. Why is it not always a good idea to respond to such requests?

How can solving other people's problems hurt you and those you are helping?

1. First, while you're wasting time on someone else's life, irreparable things can happen in your own life.

The fact is, most people get so caught up in what's around that they just stop seeing what's going on under their noses.

Try to make sure that helping others doesn't become the whole point of your life. Distract yourself from your good intentions sometimes, and see that your life is in order, too.

2. Don't accustom people to your help.

The fact is that when we help a person, we do him a kind of disservice. He becomes weaker because of us. That is, he could at least try to solve the problem himself, but he is relying on others.

Alas, but if you are not around in the future, it will be a great blow to the man. Simply because he will not be able to orient himself and solve something on his own.

3. By helping the person, you deprive him or her of an invaluable experience.

There is a risk that the situation will happen over and over again. For example, if you constantly fill up your wife's car yourself, she will never learn to watch the fuel level and drive herself to the gas station.

One day you will forget to do it, and you will be the one to blame.

4. Sometimes you have to leave a person alone with his problems, so that he can make the right decision.

It is necessary in order to develop responsibility. If a person is advised and listened to every time, he will not learn to live independently.

5. Your opinion and your view of the situation may be wrong.

Your help may cause even more problems, and you will be accused of "minding your own business. Always think about whether the person needs your help. Sometimes it is better to pass by in silence.

6. When help becomes a norm of life, it ceases to be appreciated.

One day you have to say no to a person, and he will remember the refusal, and not a hundred good deeds that you did for him before.

7. Offering to help - can be insulting, as well as unsolicited help.

Maybe the person wanted to work it out on his own, and here you are with your professional view. By helping, you prevent the person from asserting himself, depriving him of this invaluable opportunity.