How do you communicate with your wife so that she hears?

    Often timely, and most importantly - the right dialogue - can help change relationships in a positive way.

But here's the problem: men often do not understand at all how to talk to women in order to be heard.

Here are the basic rules of such dialogue:

1. First, be calm and patient.

This is the most important point. If you are irritated, then the dialogue will not work.

2. Tune in to bring the conversation to a logical denouement.

That is, convince yourself that you have no right: to snap at the shout, go to the insults, go out, slamming the door. Are you for the healthy dialogue? These methods of "communication" is not healthy, eliminate them.

3. First listen to her.

Sometimes the problem is that the woman is just "choking" on unspoken emotions and grievances. Give her the opportunity to say what she wants to say.

Maybe in her words, you will hear the main problem that worries her.

4. Have you listened? Now show your emotions, she is waiting for them.

That was not the monologue for nothing, was it? If you didn't understand anything, you probably just didn't listen to her carefully. In fact, when the woman has spoken, she's not waiting for the topic to continue. It is just important that you hear her, understand.

Find the words to show her that she was trying for a reason, that you really understand her position. Do not be in a hurry to agree with the position, if it contradicts you.

A woman doesn't expect a man to agree with every word.

5. Don't get into an argument.

Clearly, your masculinity demands it. And her feminine requires your participation, your love. She thinks you hurt her? Have pity on her, admit that in some way were wrong.

Agree, but in this situation it is important not to be a winner, and help the woman you love to get out of this state.

6. Has she calmed down? Now she's ready to hear you.

Now your arguments will be perceived by her calmly. Her consent and approval will be much easier to get. And the words are not very important.

In a conversation with a woman, the main thing - to prepare the "ground". Show that you are willing to be for her and a stone wall and the most gentle and loving - at the same time. When a woman is confident in her man, when she feels comfortable with him around: she does not nag him, she is ready to agree with his words, she is open to dialogue.

In a word, show that you come with "peace", not war, and she will no longer want to quarrel.