Someone looks at beauty, someone on the size of the wallet, someone on character and sense of humor, someone on intelligence. Talking to clients, I see that everyone has different selection criteria. What qualities of a partner are important to you when you choose your life partner? Of course, everyone has his own criteria, and for everyone they are important in their own way.
And they often forget about one quality that must be taken into account if you want a happy relationship, if you want to live a long and beautiful life together.
And it's not love at all. Love comes second. It is important for a relationship, but in order for a relationship to be strong, long and happy, it is not the main thing.
For there to be a family, for a woman to have a child in that family and to realize herself as a mother and wife, for a man to be a worthy husband and father and to provide for his family. So that two people can live their lives without destroying themselves and destroying each other.
There is something more important than love.
That quality is reliability. How reliable is the man you have chosen.
Can a woman trust herself to the man she's going to spend her life with. Will he not betray her.
Can a man trust a woman, will she not deceive him, will she be faithful.
Going into a relationship is always a risk. Because it may not work out, may not work out. We listen to our heart, trying to understand if we will be good with this person. I mean, if he's the right one for us. But even with the most suitable person, we will end up in tragedy if he is unreliable.
Maybe because we don't consider this criterion, we have come to the point where divorce is common nowadays. I'm even surprised that people get divorced and worry so much about it. It has become so familiar and commonplace. The likelihood that a couple will live together happily ever after is equal to the likelihood of winning the lottery (not a million, but just to win at least a thousand rubles). After all, no one gets depressed or traumatized when they don't win the lottery. But having chosen a random and unreliable person for a relationship, they cannot recover for a long time.
In a state of falling in love, of course, it's hard to know whether a person is reliable or not. We pay the least attention to this, bathed in hormones of subjective happiness. We do not notice or justify any of his actions, as long as they do not fall under the article of the Criminal Code. However, there are some people who are especially talented in falling in love, and they can justify or not notice this, too.
Falling in love ends when the hormones subside. In three years at the most. How will it end? Either it will become love or it will turn into anger, resentment, indifference.
During the period of falling in love, it is important to understand how reliable the person is. How much he can be trusted and trusted. How right it will be to go with him in a long joint relationship, and not to be disappointed, and not to get stabbed in the back, and not to face betrayal. Because for such a journey can not buy insurance. And you will have to pay with heartache, tears, suffering.
And then love, as the measure of a relationship, recedes into the background. Because love is our feelings, our long emotions. In a relationship you can know yourself in love, know your feelings, know the feelings of the other. It's just an experience. That feeling will change over time.
And a relationship is more than love. It's something you create together. And it's very difficult to create something together if the partner isn't reliable. Because in that case, you're either dragging everything on yourself, or you're disappointed and break up.
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